Creating in your own reality

When working with the Law of Attraction, it is important to remember that we can only create in our own reality. We can create space for someone else to live into, but that's a topic for another day.

Sometimes in our goal setting, affirming, and visualizing, our thoughts can stray into other people's realities. For example, if we are hoping to find love and romance, we may find our visualizations concentrating on a certain individual calling and asking us out. Or, if we want to make a big sale, our visualization may include us convincing a client to hand us a check.

These are both examples of attempting to control another person's agency. Agency is one of the greatest gifts human beings have been given, and any attempt to interfere with another person's agency will put our own progress towards what we desire on hold.

Make sure that your visualizations include you and only you. If you want to experience love and romance, picture yourself receiving a phone call from an unnamed individual and imagine all the feelings of excitement and twitterpation you can imagine!

If you are already in a relationship and that individual already has a name and a face, then make sure the focus of your thoughts and energy are on you. Picture yourself feeling loved and appreciated. Picture yourself as part of a healthy, affectionate relationship. Picture the places in your heart that feel empty, full.

You will always be pleasantly surprised at how the details get filled in. There is no need for you to anticipate and attempt to orchestrate the roles others will play in bringing you what you desire.

Don't let your energy stray into trying to force an outcome from someone else. It's a waste of energy and translates into ingratitude for what's already there.

If you are visualizing making a sale, picture looking at the check, seeing the numbers, feeling the gratitude. Picture filling the order, sending it out, even calling a friend and sharing the great news. The more wholly focused the visualization is on yourself, the more powerful it will be.

Another aspect that sometimes sneaks into our visualizations is an audience. When you picture yourself in that new car, are there people on the side, admiring your good fortune? Sometimes we don't even realize they are there! Paying attention to details like that in your visualizations will help you to discern your motives.

Working towards something because you hope to earn the admiration or respect of others, is at it's root, an attempt to create in someone else's reality. Whenever that happens, remind yourself, "I cannot control what others think about me, or how they feel about me, or how they see me."

Sometimes in our visualizations the 'audience' is looking at us with disapproval. Perhaps we have fears about reaching certain goals because we worry about others seeing us in negative ways. Again, remind yourself: "I cannot control what others think about me, or how they feel about me, or how they see me." And let it go. This is between you and God.